The third stage of labor can be brutal, because expectations are that it will be easy. But, how long does it take to push out a baby — and how exactly DO you push out a baby?
Hi, I’m Hilary — The Pregnancy Nurse. Pushing seems like one of the great mysteries of labor and I am excited to share with you some information on it today. I have been a nurse since 1997 and I have had 20 years in labor and delivery, so I have experienced this third stage maybe even a thousand times.
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The Third Stage of Labor
First off, which is the third phase and how does it fit in?
Four Phases of Labor
Phase 1: Latent phase, early labor (the definition of this phase varies from a closed cervix to about 3-6 cm)
Phase 2: Active Labor — from 3-6 cm until 10 cm
Phase 3: Pushing — this phase ends with the delivery of the baby
Phase 4: Delivery of the placenta
Keep in mind that besides phase 4 — it sort of “varies” as when you move from one to another. It’s not something that medical staff really charts, just gives you a better idea of how labor will progress.
What happens during the third phase of labor?
You push out the baby.
You uterus has done the vast majority of the work up until this point. But, your contractions alone won’t be enough to get the baby out.
If you want to look at it in bodily terms — it’s like a poop.
Your body most often won’t get poop out on its own. You’re required to push a bit at the end to have it exit your body. Same idea with the baby.
What is “laboring down”?
Many practitioners prefer that moms “labor down”, especially if they have a comfortable epidural.
This means that we continue to let your uterus push the baby down as much as it can on its own and then you engage with pushing once it’s a bit lower.
How low is the baby?
Medical staff measures how low the baby is by “station” (I have a whole post on my sister site about vaginal exams) — that means how high or low the baby’s head is in comparison to the ischial spines (basically your bum bones).
It would be the hope that by the time your cerivix is fully dilated (10 cm) — your baby would be at least 0 station if not plus 2 or even three.
If your baby is still high when you are fully dilated, I would expect your nurse to be turning you and using positioning to help baby find its way into your pelvis.
How do you push out a baby?
You bear down and push, just like you are pooping. Yup, that analogy is pretty similar to the whole process.
The Routine of pushing:
- Take a big deep breath in
- Bear down for as long as you can (some nurses count to ten)
- Blow that air out
Rinse and repeat.
Open Glottal vs Closed Glottal Pushing
Studies show that women do better with “open glottal pushing” — problem is, that is studies. I find that each mom has to kind of get into her zone of pushing.
What is Open Glottal Pushing
It is where you allow air (and sound) to escape your mouth while you push.
The main problem I have had with this is that women just SCREAM rather than push.
And while that is 100% their right to scream, it isn’t effective in pushing out the baby.
I have found that some moaning can be helpful to engage your lower abs and push the baby better. More low sounds vs the high pitched GET THIS OUT type feeling.
How long does it take to push out a first baby?
I read one of the articles on pushing and said it was the “easiest and simple phase of labor”.
Which is an absolute lie.
I wonder who the heck wrote that article.
Average pushing time on your first baby is 2 hours.
That’s AVERAGE. Meaning sometimes we push for 3 hours, and sometimes one.
Why does it take so long to push out a baby?
Well, you have bones and tissue that has been that way since you were born.
Baby’s head has to mould (many babies are born with a “conehead” as bones shift to help baby come out — all of this is normal and babies are built to do that safely).
Often, moms just aren’t giving good effort. They push in their face vs their bottom.
Things that lessen pushing time:
A low fetal station
As we talked before, if baby is lower in the pelvis, it stands to reason that moms won’t push as long (as they don’t have as far to go)
As laboring down will often bring baby lower, it will also lessen pushing time (this doesn’t always work — and I would encourage a lot of movement as you use this strategy — I like to turn my patients at least every 30 minutes if we are laboring down).
You can push on your side, you can change your hand holds, you can try hands and knees or other things.
By encouraging your nurse to think outside the box, it might help your baby find a sweet spot and come down easier.
This all being said, a lot of patients are not good about helping us help you to move. If you lay there like a lump of wood, the nurse will be less likely to change your position and help you push that way.
You have to remember you’ll only push that baby out once, but we have to keep doing this day in and day out and preserve our backs for our career.
Lowering the Epidural
The Epidural is similar to your IV medication as it slowly drips into your back. If you are so numb you can’t feel a thing, often we will lower the epidural medication to help you push more effectively.
Yes, you will likely feel some pressure and some pain, but it will also allow your body some feedback to push more effectively.
Best tips for pushing:
- Curl up around your baby vs flexing your back and arching your back
- Pull your own legs towards your body, it puts you in a good position to push (again curling around that baby)
- Push your lower back into the bed as you push
- Keep your pelvis relaxed as you push, no kegals!
- Keep arms positioned like you are rowing a boat, elbows off the bed helps (and keeps you rounded around baby)
- Have your partner help you lift your neck so you aren’t straining those muscles.
- If something is bothering you (rather count to ten vs pushing “as long as you can”, or would you like to try a different position) — let your staff know! They can’t read your mind. 🙂
How long does it take to push out a second baby?
Not as long. Most often.
However, if baby is much larger than the first, it can take a while (my 2nd baby was about 1.5 pounds larger than my first — so, I pushed for 45 minutes). Or, if it’s been a while your tissues might not be as “open”
Why does it take less time to push out your second baby?
Your vaginal wall has stretched open.
Think of it as a giant accordion that has been opened once before. It’s just that simple.
How long does it take to push out a third or fourth baby?
Each baby takes a bit less time. Insomuch that I have had to put a ban on laughing in the room so the doctor would have time to get there for the delivery.
When will my doctor get there?
This is one of the most important part of a labor nurse’s training. Learning when to call the doctor so they are not there too long, and are also there to deliver the baby.
Most often, I called the OB when the head was visible in the vaginal canal without my fingers opening it and when the patient wasn’t pushing.
I can’t tell you how many OB’s have yelled at me for calling them too late or too early. Totally inappropriate, but you have to remember the nurse is always balancing your needs with the doctors.
So, that’s the third stage of labor.
It is not the simplest or fastest phase of labor.
That’s the 4th stage, at least we hope. 🙂