The 3 Worst Ways People Prepare for Birth

I think everyone knows they need to get prepared for birth. But, there are a lot of REALLY bad ways people are choosing to do so. Today I want to talk about the 3 worst ways that I see people preparing, how you can pivot those to positive things so you can really feel confident going into your delivery.

The best way to prepare for birth isn’t more random tips — it’s a clear, step-by-step understanding of what to expect, what your options are, and how to navigate it all as a team. That’s where real confidence comes from.

Social Media

We do it, we ALL do it — I was just on social media looking at my son’s chances of getting a job he’d had a final interview for. Why? I have no idea — I’m just saying we all look to social media bout what to expect from life.

But, just like videos on social media have nothing to do with my own son’s chances of getting a job — it also can have some issues in preparing for birth.

But why?

You Don’t Get the Full Story

The videos that do the best on social media are often short (at least under 90 seconds — but often closer to 30 seconds) and include a hook that draws you in that often peaks your interest on a topic you’re interested in (but doesn’t fulfill on that promise).

Ultimately, you often get a small nibble of information which leaves you with more questions. Then, you head into the comment section to learn more only to find so many more questions and often a LOT of people with a LOT of opinions (not facts).

This can leave you feeling overwhelmed and like you can NEVER learn what’s important for your upcoming birth.

Social media can be:

• An OK way to supplement your already prepared and confident brain (I recommend this)
• A great way to share how you’re feeling and not feel so alone
• A nice way to find people you trust to help you learn MORE — you may have even found me there (find me @pregnancynurse on all the platforms).

But it really, really can’t be your main way to get prepared.

At the very least try to get videos on Youtube vs the short reels. You’ll at least get more of the full picture on a topic. You can find my channel (with a TON of videos) here. But I want more than even that for you!

Clips give you pieces. Preparation comes from seeing the whole picture.

It Can’t be Trusted.

When I first started really working as a content creator in 2014 (I’m old, I know) I learned that “if you are willing to write on a topic, that means you’re an expert”.

And I was like…. what?

Sure, that might be true on things like what diapers are best, or what hair product works best in curly hair… but when it’s something as important as your baby…? Or, possibly even your life?

Here we are in 2026 and this is honestly just a standard. There are so many people out there saying acting as experts who’ve….

• Doula’d in a few births
• Maybe just had a few kids of their own (or honestly, just one)

And these might be fine people to have a chat with at your local mom’s group, but when you’re looking for actual foundational advice for your pregnancy, labor & birth and managing postpartum — they’re not who you give that trust to.

My best tips:

• Look for experience — as a labor nurse you really don’t become competent until about 8 years into your practice — so, you should be looking for real experience in the labor room (not a physical therapist, or an RN who has not worked L&D).
• Combine that with initials — I’m an RN-BSN which means I am licensed and I have a bachelor’s degree. I have met minimum requirements a few times, which means I meet a standard.
• No Outliers — their advice should be fairly standard, and should empower you to make choices for yourself. Not pushing you into one specific way to birth.

Social media often shares opinions — not context. Learning from an expert helps you understand the “why” behind what’s happening, so you can make informed decisions that feel right for you.

Focus Just on Planned Stuff

This one catches a lot of people off-guard because the planned stuff is actually the foundation for a lot of classes. Things like:

• Stages of labor
• How baby progresses down the birth canal
• How to manage the planned pain of labor.

These are things that happen in almost all births.

We know they’ll happen — so it is smart to prepare for them. But they should only be a small section of your class!

There was a recent study that showed that out of 65 birth classes they looked at — NONE covered the unplanned events. And I’m not talking about crazy rare things — I’m talking cesareans, inductions, episiotomies. I outline that in this article.

Now, clearly a sample size of 65 isn’t big — but it’s something. AND they clearly didn’t look at the class I recommend as it has a chapter on caesareans and inductions.

The reality is that a lot of pregnancy, labor, birth and postpartum is unplanned. You need a class that is going to talk about the unplanned things that might happen. And yes — I did say postpartum. Just as important to know what to do if that’s going wrong too!

It’s not the unexpected that makes labor feel overwhelming — it’s not being prepared for it. When you understand what situations like induction or cesarean actually look like, you can approach them with less anxiety and more confidence instead of trying to process everything in the moment.

Want to know more about those unplanned events? — check out these posts:

• Episiotomy vs a Natural Tear: Which Is Better?
• What To Do If Labor Isn’t Progressing?
• What You Need to Know About Wired vs Wireless Monitors in Labor
• Your Complete Guide to Epidurals in Labor: Everything You Need to Know
• 3 Tips to Using Movement During Labor WITH an Epidural

Alone

This final one is easy to do.

Schedules are crazy, partners may not be super jazzed to learn about this — or think learning about this is up to you.

But I’m here to say that you can be as prepared as you can be — but if 5 nurses run in your room (see unplanned events above) and that partner starts to freak out, that freak out will start to pass-on to you too.

And I don’t want that for you. I want BOTH of you to feel cool, calm, collected.

Of course, this dives right into the fac that most people are “preparing” on social media and may send a few important topics to their partner, but the partner is left with those bits and pieces, and questions that overwhelm them.

That’s why a class, you can take together, and get all the important stuff is so important. I recommend this one (it’s specifically there to do with a partner — even if it’s your mom or a friend). It only takes a few hours, and if time together is at an absolute premium in the bundle there are key point videos where it’s like getting the cliff notes of labor!

One of the biggest shifts couples notice isn’t just what they learn — it’s how much more connected and prepared they feel together. When you’ve talked through what to expect, your options, and how to support each other, you’re not trying to figure things out in labor — you’re working as a team.

I just wanted to say how glad I am that you’re here. That you’re even thinking about getting prepared.

I know you’re going to pick the right path for you, and have a wonderful journey into parenthood.

What other crappy ways have you seen people prepare — tell me in the comments!